R’October Sober 2019

It’s Day 21 of #SoberSeptember 2019 and I’m going strong and feeling 100 times better than I did in August. The depression and fog has lifted and my energy and motivation is BACK!! While I allowed drinks from May to August (a total of 59 days) my plan is to finish 2019 Sober AF! And I’m putting it out there again … for those who may want to hop on board! Try for ONE month and see for yourself just how much of a difference it can make in your overall wellbeing!

When you #LoseDaBooze – you open the door to so many great things. It’s like that saying, you must clear out clutter to make room for the new. That’s what alcohol was for me. I used it as a coping mechanism to mask or numb many of life’s challenges. I used it for every excuse – to celebrate, or because I was tired or because I deserved it… but do you know what I deserve more of? The peace, the clarity and the FREEDOM that comes with sobriety!

I danced with the idea of moderation over 6 years… I went for long stretches of alcohol free (AF) stints – 30 days, then 100 days a few times over, and my last longest 277 days. Each time I re-introduced ‘da booze… I slipped back to old ways and patterns and I noticed just how unhappy I felt.

When I compare or list all the reasons why I drink and how it makes me feel versus when I don’t drink and how amazingly positive my life is – it’s like a no brainer… SERIOUSLY!

Gone are the cravings from my mind … this longing for a substance that was clouding my life in so many ways. The alcohol was preventing me from reaching my health goals, my dreams and it was stopping me from pursing my passions! I don’t like to say ‘never’ but I feel as though this habit is more a thing of my past and one that no longer serves me or my purpose in life. I have BIG dreams and I’m going for them with a renewed energy and focus!

Don’t you want a taste of how this feels? I encourage you to jump in… Because it’s a secret group, you’ll need to friend me on Facebook if you want me to add you). Secret means it’s beyond a closed group in terms of privacy. People can’t even find our group so it won’t show up on your news feeds in any way. While I’m more public about my journey now because I want to help others achieve this … I understand that it is something many still wish to keep private.

So what do you say?! Are you ready to join in for R’October Sober 2019 with us?! It’s time for YOU to #LoseDaBooze and discover the gifts of being AF!!

Sober September 2019

I am nearing the 2 week mark since my return to the AF way and keeping up with #SoberSeptember. Cravings have been minimal but thoughts have come up here and there. What I notice is that they appear when I’m tired or feel like I ‘deserve a break’. I know now that allowing ‘one’ drink opens the gate to more because one is never enough. Once I start I feel like what the hell – it’s no longer an AF day so may as well make it a good one and I’ll get back to AF tomorrow… which ends up turning into more days. The saying that if we want true and lasting change – we must be willing to do things differently for me means that I need to find alternate coping mechanisms when those thoughts/triggers come up.

This past week has definitely held a record number of challenges including 3 days of dealing with crises with my daughter (with doctor’s visits, crisis line calls and emergency department visits). This weekend is about helping her move to yet another place (this has been about her 6th or 7th move since January). She is now 18 and we have been dealing with her mental health issues since 2013 – which is when I embarked on this journey to Lose ‘da Booze. I knew I had to be strong and sober! I knew that drinking was not going to alleviate any of these issues – if anything they at times made them worse.

My new coping mechanisms include blogging (my version of journaling), posting in my groups and seeking external support via a parents’ lifeline and some of my own counseling to work through this difficult time. YES I’m a health and wellness coach and I know first hand just how important it is to get the support you need through difficult times. There’s no shame in asking for help.

Amidst all of this – I’m also accomplishing other positive things such as a successful interview (step 2 or 3) for a full time permanent position (as I was told my current position would be reduced to 2 days a week in January). I managed to workout every single morning and am back to my routine of daily positive affirmations. I listen to audio books to and from work (currently listening to Jack Canfield’s Maximum Confidence: 10 Steps to Extreme Self-Esteem). I am walking the 5km Race for Kids September 15th in support of children’s mental health. I’m eating better than I was – not perfect but much improved! I am doing some Intermittent Fasting and trying to stop eating at least a few hours before bed – but allowing one day a week for a bit of a break. Oh and I launched my Sobriety Swag website!

One of the designs available

So yes – it’s been a tough week – but because of my health practices, I feel a sense of balance. I also listen to my body. For the most part had been sleeping well – but when I’m tired – I go to bed rather than reach for food or booze. Today will likely involve a nap as I didn’t sleep great last night… thankfully it’s the weekend and I can! But first… a workout to start the day!

Hoping you are all doing well through this month. If you need any extra support, please contact me or visit my coaching website Healthy4Life with Helene or visit/like/follow my Facebook Page where I post daily for motivation and inspiration to help YOU live Healthy4Life!

First Week Back

I’m back to the AF way after allowing a total of 59 days with drinks and finishing off the year without any booze. That means this calendar year will result in 306 Days AF – in comparison to the 263 Days AF I had in 2017 and 2018.

Better is better – and my story is one of forward progress. I shared in my groups about how we must stop comparing ourselves to others. For some it’s about going cold turkey and for others like me, it means building up to what may eventually be a 100% Sober Life.

I embrace every lesson I’ve learned along the way and while some may consider my days with drinks as failure – I continue to move forward.

One of the most current lessons is how as I near my first week back on the AF train – just how much better I feel in comparison to how I felt after having several consecutive days with drinks.

The anxiety, depression, jitters, worry, fear, lack of self-confidence and lack of self-esteem is gone. As I face uncertainty with my job and definite changes ahead after a 9 year tenure in the same position, I am very happy to be where I am today feeling much more confident and self-assured. I trust that The Universe has great things in store for me and letting go of the fear and simply focusing on what I do best.

As I prepare to share a workshop on Changes and Challenges at work and in my online paid group, I heal myself through the process and am able to share from my own personal experience the benefit of rising above the negativity and leaving behind the things that no longer serve me.

My focus now is to keep building strength. Get back to my regular exercise routine. Focus on building my coaching business and putting more programs and blogs out there.

When one door closes, another one opens. Here’s to fresh new beginnings! If you want to know more about my coaching and the programs I offer, visit my website Healthy4Life with Helene