I’ve been reading posts through the various sober groups that I’m a part of and whenever I see someone say “I’m back to Day One again” I cringe.
You see, you’ll never ever be back to that same day one. Every day is new and you are not the same person you were yesterday. As I am doing the work to do my Decade in Review, I could try to count the numerous times I re-started my AF efforts… but instead I choose to focus on my progress.
Since I started tracking my AF days, I have marked the days where I was AF with stars in my calendar. More recently I started using Sober Time – but when I reset from a streak – I keep count of my totals. I find this more empowering and less defeating than having the mentality of starting over again at DAY ONE.
What I see is progress in some of my stretches through the years… from only being able to string along a couple of days, to 30 days, to 100 days, to 173 and my last longest stretch of 277 Days AF. I see years where I only had 65 Days AF to finishing this year with a total of 306 Days AF!
Each year I kept count of my totals. And I’ve been sharing the year by year review in my groups (the Lose ‘da Booze – The Other Way secret group and the Living AF Age 50+ group).
This has been a process in my head. While I’m not yet 100% AF – I’m definitely doing so much better than I was in past years. And that’s what counts! My head is not constantly filled with thinking about drinking. Booze is no longer taking up the majority of real estate in my head. In its place now is my focus on health and wellness and supporting my clients to reach a point where this can happen for them as well!
So please, if you’re on this journey to #LoseDaBooze, be gentle with yourself. Each time you go back to booze – it’s because there’s a lesson you needed to learn. Until you’ve learned that lesson the pattern will keep repeating. The KEY to breaking the pattern is creating new behaviors and habits. Replacing the bad habit with a better one! You will NEVER be back at Day One Again!
There are many books that have helped me along the way and I may post a blog about that soon, but if there’s ONE book I can recommend to you is the Little Book of Big Change by Dr. Amy Johnson. I’ve listened to this one 3 times over and each time I walk away with a new understanding. What I loved about this book is that it wasn’t just about booze but in general about letting go of habits that no longer served you in your life!
If you are starting a new day AF, I encourage you to stay the course! Arm yourself with some #SoberTools like the groups I mention or consider joining one of my private groups to have a more intensive one on one experience with me as your Sober Coach. My next group will be in January 2020 and is limited so if you’re interested in stepping it up and getting additional support beyond the FREE groups … then send me via Facebook where I run the groups.
ABOUT ME: I’m a Certified Wellness Coach with the International Association of Wellness Professionals(IAWP). Through my accredited education with the IAWP, I was trained in a unique health philosophy called Wellness 360™ that helps people to create health and balance in all areas of their life. As Wellness 360™ coach I help my clients through 5 proven steps designed to help them create total mind-body wellness with tons of support and guidance on their journey. I also offer specific support related to living a sober life.